There I was again wiping away tears of frustration off my face.
How am I supposed to do this? How do I mother through different personalities and different needs all at once?
Having a two-year-old and a four-year-old can be loads of fun, and brings me tremendous joy. But, there are days when I feel unfit to parent our great rewards.
Sometimes it just feels like my “good enough” is simply not enough.
My head was spinning from the day we had.
Our four-year-old felt he needed to inform me in detail about every Star Wars Lego mini-figure ever made, and my two-year-old, well, let’s just say he’s in that terrible two stage.
As I picked up all the toys spilled throughout the living room floor, my emotions spilled out and joined in on the mess.
While muttering out a frustrated prayer unto the Lord, a children’s jingle played in my head.
Whenever our toddler inappropriately expresses his frustration, we frequently reference this song from a PBS Kids program, Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood.
Our two-year-old boy loves building with Lego Duplo sets, but he gets in a fit of rage when the Legos topple over. I know our little guy is not happy as soon as I see Lego pieces being thrashed and thrown across the room. And, then the crying commences. Not just any crying—at the top of your lungs crying. After correcting his behavior, we usually look at our boy and say, “Remember the Daniel Tiger song? Let’s sing the song: ‘When you’re feeling frustrated, take a step back, and ask for help.’”
After singing the song, our son usually nods his head, wipes his tears off his face, and then asks, “Mama…help?”
In the midst of his frustrations and emotional meltdowns, our son just needs a little reminder that help is readily accessible upon his request.
In my moment of frustration I realized I too get entangled in an emotional mess, and forget that help is readily accessible to me if I just ask.
You see, I’m sure you know, this mothering thing is pretty hard. I am convinced it’s the toughest job out there. There’s no on the job training. Most of the times there are no tangible rewards. Some days we deem ourselves super mom, then on other days it’s like survival of the fittest.
I work hard to create a craft activity, or plan an outing, only to have our boys react much less enthusiastically than I had predicted.
Nap times, also known as mommy’s quiet time, get interrupted and disturbed, toppling over my hope for a break.
Plans for an event we have looked forward to for weeks abruptly fall apart because of someone getting sick.
The disparity between the age differences, and personal needs of multiple children, are so great they leave you wondering, how am I supposed to meet each demand?
You design a plan, and then life happens.
And, sometimes, like our toddler, I unravel and become undone. Feelings of frustration and utter failure sweep over me causing me to feel helpless and incompetent as a mother.
So, what’s a mama to do?
In the words of Daniel Tiger, “When you’re feeling frustrated, take a step back, and ask for help.”
As daughters of The King, let’s wipe those tears from our faces, look up and ask our Father for help.
In our moment of weakness, in our moment of frustration, let’s call out to the Lord and cry out to him for assistance.
The Bible tells us that, “There is no one like the God of Israel. He rides across the heavens to help you, across the skies in majestic splendor” (Deuteronomy 33:26, NLT).
Just picture that. An Almighty, All-Powerful God riding across the heavens to help us! When we cry out to Him, He stops and rides across the skies in majestic splendor just to help us! Truly, there is no one like Him!
I desperately needed this encouragement.
I know sometimes we may not feel adequate enough to hold the title of “mom,” but God has called us and He will equip us for the job!
Let’s not give in to the lie that we are ill equipped, and unfit, thus allowing the enemy to render us ineffective! Instead let’s admit our weakness; let’s admit there’s no such thing as a perfect mother or a perfect child. You know what is perfect? God’s strength is perfect when paired with our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).
God’s help is readily accessible to us. So do not fear, because God is with us; do not be dismayed, because He is our God. He will strengthen us and help us; He will uphold us with His righteous right hand (Isaiah 41:10).
So, let’s go do this mothering thing with the assurance that the Lord is with us; He is our helper (Psalm 118:7).
If, like me, you need to be reminded often about where your help comes from, I’ve compiled a few verses you can print out, cut out, and post throughout your home so you can continually remember in your moments of frustration to pause and ask God for help. With God, we can do this!
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